Marriage: It’s All Emotional
Nothing frustrates me more than to witness social conditioning impacting every corner of everyday life on this planet. From government to politics and race to religion, it’s pretty sad that few people ever bother to deconstruct the meaning of most things we believe to be valid and right.
Let’s take marriage for example. Does a sheet of paper and ceremony truly mean anything? No. It only has value and merit because we say it does (Same is true for the American dollar, laws, etc.). Will a marriage certificate make you love someone more? No. Will it make you more committed? No. Will it make life better? No.
Everyone’s getting married just to say their partner is now their spouse and to be recognized for a few lousy tax benefits? Marriage is emotionally and psychologically-based. Its foundation is rooted in centuries of concepts created by man to wield control, maintain order, etc.
Becoming “married” is no different than the emotional trigger which occurs when we decide to date someone we’re attracted to. The relationship is only valid now because two parties have agreed to such and have made it so. Marriage is just a glorified relationship with public interests attached (taxation, marriage license, etc.)
It’s sickening how rooted make believe things are in our society. How do we not stop and think about these things? Do we accept everything at face value, simply because of what we’ve been told all our lives?
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Ron,
Interesting post, but I beg to differ in that marriage, much like a lot of things in life, have become trivialized due to the lack of importance given to them as generations pass. So true is the statement that a piece of paper doesn’t make two love each other more. The same can be said for a ceremony. It honestly, to me, depends on if u value the spiritual origin of marriage, from a biblical standpoint. If that’s not one’s thing, well…makes sense that it would be seen as such. I look at Christmas the same way - trivialized and WELL commercialized for sure. Again, depends on your outlook, but getting back to marriage…if u look at the rising divorce rates and burn rate of a marriage “life” these days, it’s understandable. I tell people I’ve been married for 12 years and they gasp as if it is unbelievable. Anyway, post mode: OFF. Came here via your Twitter page. Feel free to hit me up: mrfresh
Peace!
Though I cannot speak for myself for I am not married, most people I do know are not valuing the true basic foundations of marriage to honor each other. Why are we disrespecting the sacred vows that we made to God? Why do people have elaborate weddings praising how much they love each other and in reality within a year both parties may either hate each other, tolerate each other or stick in the marriage for reasons of financial security or social standing?!
People need to evaluate what they want out of companionship. Maybe it is best to be married for the sake of having children but if you know you are going to have a wandering eye and are going to bed people outside of the relationship then the single life may suit you.
The only problem throughout whatever we say as humans we all need some type of companionship. If we can be honest with this feeling instead of denying that we need that human interaction maybe we can begin to be honest first with ourselves then we can be honest with others.
Thanks for your thoughts!
Hi Ron, interesting post, but unfortunately we are all entitled to our opinion however ignorant it maybe. I know you’ll probably delete my response, but as long as you read it I’m cool.
You obviously are very bitter from a past relationship…bet you were once married. Not because you had a crappy experience means marriage is all emotional, have you ever heard about love, matter of fact have you ever experienced TRUE love? I think not, yes it takes a legal paper to constitute it, and yes back in the old world (the past) it was to merge two worlds, etc….but like I said in the OLD WORLD (THE PAST). I’m sure today they are a few that get married for the wrong reason, but what in life is ALL PERFECT????? You really need to stop being so negative about everything in life….we all live for ourselves, like you said in your previous post, so why waste your time to worry about why other people do what they do…does it make or change your life in any way share or form???? No, it doesn’t…..
Hey dude. I don’t think it’s that serious.. nor do I think it’s as cut & dry as you make it out to be. There are definitely folks who think that way, I won’t deny that. Marriage, to me, is 2 folks deciding to join forces forever, in every aspect of their lives. They marry because they make each other better, or challenge each other or support each other. It’s a permanent drinking buddy. Someone to go on vacations with. Someone to bounce ideas off of. Someone to make dumb/good/crazy decisions with. Someone who shares the same ideas when it comes to what raising a kid(or 2, or 7) would involve. Someone who’s there for you sink or swim. Someone you’re there for, sink or swim.
Notice, nothing there suggests anything about a legal paper bounding anyone..nothing about taxes…nothing about social status or what anyone else thinks, hell there’s nothing in that above paragraph about God, and that’s where the entire institution of marriage came out. It’s about 2 people. It’s about me and that person, F anything else. Ya dig?